第六章 帮助孩子从角色中释放出来
6 Ways to Free Child from Playing Roles
1. Look for opportunities to show the children a new picture of themselves
( You’ve had that toy since you were three and it almost looks like new! )
2. Put children in situations there they can see themselves differently
( Sara, would you take the screwdriver and tighten the pulls on these drawers?)
3. Let children overhear you say something positive about them
( He held his arm steady even though the shot hurt.)
4. Model the behavior you’d like to see
( It’s hard to lose, but I’ll try to be a sport about it. Congratulations!)
5. Be a storehouse for your child’s special moments
( I remember the time you……)
6. When the child acts according to the old lable, state your feelings and/or your expectations
( I don’t like that. Despite your strong feelings, I expect sportsmanship from you.)
6 种帮助孩子从角色中释放的方法
1.寻找机会让孩子看到一个全新的自己
( 你三岁就开始玩那个玩具，现在看起来还很新! )
2.创造一种情形，让孩子另眼看自己
( 你能用改锥把抽屉的把手弄紧吗?)
3.让孩子无意中听到你对他们的正面评价
( 打针的时候虽然很疼，但他还是一直举着胳膊.)
4.给孩子作出榜样
( 输了的确不好受, 但是我要努力做到输得起. 祝贺你!)
5. 记住孩子的特别的时刻
( 我记得那时候你……)
6. 当孩子又按照以前的方式行事时, 陈述你的感觉和期望
( 我不喜欢这样. 不管你的感觉有多强烈, 我希望你能输得起.)
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发表于 2007-1-6 22:39
